Exposing Children

When is it a good time to talk to your children about
your sexuality and lifestyle?

Val's POV: This topic has been on my mind for awhile since I am the proud mom of a seven year old son. I have kept him sheltered for most of his life not bringing him around those I’ve dated over the years... then came Tae….

Together we’re a family. The other day while walking with Jah’mir, Tae asked him “who he thought she was” and he responded “mommy’s friend” which triggered the emotion in me that maybe it’s time we sit him down and tell him together. Children are smarter then we give them credit for. Ignorance and judgment comes from lack of knowledge...if they understand what it is about then they would have a better understanding to make better judgments’ about the situations. Otherwise they will hear it from the outside world and create their views from there. I don’t want to keep who I am away from his so in no way will he think its wrong. Children are much more accepting and supportive. I want Tae and I to sit him down soon and tell him that he now has two people who love him. While our family isn’t the traditional family, it’s a loving and solid one nonetheless. He’s seven and the right age to know the truth. I believe education starts within the family...

Tae's POV: Hmm, if it were up to me, children would be introduced to sexual discussions the same time they're introduced to their body parts... in other words, as soon as they can speak. Just as a teacher would start math with 1+1=2 and progress to calculus.. sexual discussions should begin very basic until the child matures and is able to grasp complex ideas. Within this sexual education, they would be informed that their are different types of relationships, none being better than the other. But hey, that's just me dreaming. Sex talks should start at home, and in my household, they will.

As far as our personal situation goes, I think that Val should sit down with Jah'mir, as mother and son, and inform him of our different, yet loving family. After it is discussed, I would gladly partake in following discussions to reassure him that we are no different than any other family because WE ARE NOT.

Grr.

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Astrology is bullshit, or is it?

What do you think of Astrology?

Tae's POV: Mmkay, I'll get this out the way early... PLEASE STOP BELIEVING IN THE BOWEL MOVEMENT KNOWN AS ASTROLOGY, it has plagued our society long enough. Seriously, if one more person tells me they act some sort of way because of the month they were born, I will personally print out their horoscope... force them to read it... and show them that it doesn't predict the death they will face when I throw them out the window. *breathes - woosah* ..

Asstrology, correctly categorized as a pseudoscience, provides people with an excuse to act a certain way and blame it on the planets. Pause - first off, if you really read the descriptions characterized within each sign... you will come to see the statements are so damn vague... you'll ALWAYS find something that suits your personality. In other words, I might act like a libra this week because I'm feeling balanced, and a cancer the next week because I'm feeling emotional. Shit is situational... not because the moon wants to move here or there and cockblock the earth from the sun or whatever asstrology claims. *rolls eyes*

Moreover, to the asstrology fanatics who find that every detail of their sign relates to them.... HELLO... have you never heard of the self-fulfilling prophecy? You're so certain you are 'suppose' to act this way... that you carry out the behavior... completing the circle that makes you believe asstrology has any type of substance. Damn shame.

Do you know somebody that is deadset on astrology? Do the little things I do to shake their foundation. Tell them you are a sign that you aren't and I'll bet you $1000 they'll say "Oh, I could tell because you act like.... which is characteristic of your sign". After they complete their clueless spiel... say, "BITCH PLEASE, I lied, now what?" Lmao. Better yet, look through the horoscopes in the newspaper, I bet you'll relate to more than half of them. The statements are so general, you'd have to be out of this world (like me hehe) to not relate to it.

At the end of the day, I'll be damned if the time I am born' dictates what my personality is like.. more than the spirit that lives inside of me. Which is another fishy thing about astrology... why does it focus on 'the day you were born' as opposed to the moment of conception, the moment of your creation? Val... gon' spit cho nonsense.

Val's POV: *mushes Tae & glares at her a lil and presses pause button so I can tug on my baby's reigns...lol* nigga, I like how you go in on something you know would ruffle my feathers a little bit. We got jokes huhn? You a funny dude sometimes. I am kind of feeling this du-blog <--just created a Pro'ism lol I like this open discourse especially being able to read your thoughts on things we haven't discussed in depth yet...I love you! *cracks neck and presses play...lets go*

Let me say this first and foremost the emotions by matter of long windedness I am about to express are solely my personal opinions. I tend to rant when passionate about a topic.

Why do "eccentrics" like me believe in astrology when "logicians" like Tae refute it?

Blame it on my Aquarian traits, *smirking* my upbringing, or things I've seen and witnessed in this life time. While I'm not a church fanatic nor religious by any standard I still believe in a higher power. The greatest mathematician who created the planets which play an integral role in our existence. The stars, moon and sun merge with our souls thus permeating cosmic energy.

Thus, just as a body is made up of bones, fluid and flesh, a soul is made up of astral elements from the Lights and planets.

Astrology is a method of positioning harmonic relationships between celestial bodies. All of it is determined by the daily rotations of the earth. Through the cosmic imprinting of each birth, event or moment in time, we can find the potential within our individual human consciousness, as well as the in pouring of energy that mirrors human evolution and events. ( refer to the book of life spoken of in your churches)

Before birth, each of us chooses a birth time and place - in order to connect with certain other souls, work out past karma, and continue progressing as spirits in human form. There is also a certain element of chance - by necessity and design - that helps to make each of us unique and bring us surprises and new experiences.

Learning about your birth sign in my opinion serves two key purposes: first, you may gain a better understanding of your inborn personality traits and how they serve to strengthen and nurture you; and second, you consciously reunite with the universal elements.. This is a way of opening to the God-force, or universal light of which we are a part of.

Astrology is not simply your daily horoscope. How could 1/12th of the world's population have the same fate as you? Real Astrology is more then that. Your personality has a bit of every sign and every planet in it, it’s a blend of elements unique to you. Regardless of what your astrologer or horoscope may say, your choices will ideally be based on your own inner voice, your higher self -the voice of reason, and clarity. Whatever you get in a predictive reading is to give you insights into trends and possibilities in your future, with a focus on opportunities and feelings, NOT specific events. The intention will hopefully be to help you accept and prepare for your challenges.

God (whomever or whatever that means to you) created our universe ages ago, giving us sapiens, varying visions of spiritual meaning for existence within this universe. Astrology was birth from one of those visions. I actually did a paper in college based on the evolution of astrology within different cultures. It is deeply ingrained in Eastern philosophies, and in the West it has been accepted more often than rejected by popular theology*. It is a living art. Your astrological sign is not a way to cop out on personality problems. Whatever difficult traits you may have are meant to challenge you to become a better, stronger, more spiritual person.

Not predict your many steps. I believe at different times I bear different characteristic traits but I also feel by nature and design I am every bit my Aquarian sign….quote me!

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To Three or Not To Three

Should couples partake in threesomes?

Val's POV: So this topic is something I’ve discussed with Tae before and although we did not get into it in depth, I wanted to speak on it. Some may say bringing a third party into the equation would make a relationship everything but monogamous but I beg to differ. I believe that in the same manner that “You” are able to define or redefine labels and job titles that “a couple” defines what type of relationship they have and sets those boundaries. If Tae wanted a threesome it is definitely something I wouldn’t mind considering it as long as certain rules were followed such as:

No Kissing! ( of any kind ): For me that’s one of thee most intimate acts that one can share., even more then sex.

No one we know! : All I need is for some bitch to fall in love with her stroke and I end up on Americas Most Wanted behind a fantasy that keeps on giving. She would have to have no kind of attachment to either of us.

Not in our home! : This ties in with the above. The bed I share with Tae is the bed I share with her. I need no one else’s scent on our sheets nor do I want someone we have no intentions of seeing again knowing where we live.

We both agree on the prospect and she get tested for STDS before hand: I don’t need any kind of sore as a consistent reminder of a romp… to level the playing field all of us can get tested together. I have to be attracted…even remotely or what would be the point? Tae would have to be as well….

Most importantly though, this is something we would have to discuss in great detail. Sharing our qualms as well. Most relationships aren’t built for this level of eroticism. Trust and a strong foundation is key.

A lot of people would be taken aback to hear that one of my fantasies, involves Tae strapping a beautiful woman. Many will cringe and mumble that would be infidelity on her part but I beg to differ since it’s my fantasy. I am fully aware of what will take place, because you better believe I am going to be close enough to the bed to smell her thrusts. Granted that’s if my baby some day complies with said unorthodox sexual practices. Again, there would be rules. I am aware of the door I’d open up by letting someone else in but the reason id be able to do so is because of TRUST.

Within our union, I am open and receptive to just about anything because I trust her.

Now while joining in doesn’t truly turn me on if it was Tae’s fantasy to have a threesome, id comply. I feel each couple is different, the type of foundation you set and build will set the tone for your relationship as a whole. I am with my best friend. There is nothing I can’t share or anything id be afraid to explore because I trust her.

Tae's POV: To be honest, I feel most couples do not have the secure foundation needed to have sexual explorations with a third partner without things getting messy. On top of that, the planning it would take to ensure everyone is satisfied is a headache in itself. For instance, with all of Val's rules... we would have to find a person who is okay with being 'used'. I'm not sure I feel comfortable with using someone. Moreover, how can you have sex with somebody without kissing them? That's so awkward that I wouldn't enjoy it at all. Don't get me wrong, I DON'T WANT TO KISS ANYONE ELSE. However, if I were to live out any fantasy, restrictions such as no kissing would have to be lifted. Knowing my baby ,she'd say the fantasy is produced in the act of fucking, and not kissing... but what if I slip up and forget? I know exactly what would happen... I'd be picking up the 'extra' person's teeth from the floor after Val knocked them out.

Also, who the hell are we 'threeing' with? A man or a woman. Womp, ain't no way in hell would I like to see a man touch MY GIRL and damn sure not me, lmao. Not that I'm insecure. or a man-hater.. but something about that would turn me way offfffffff. Now a woman, I could see a woman topping Val and vice versa. Although Val swears she will never let somebody else top her, I'd like to see it because it would be an outer body experience. I'd get to see how Val and I make love, without actually being apart of the act.

All in all, I'd have to give a nay to having threesomes. I don't want no other coochie juice on me, *gags*. If anything, considering threesomes shouldn't take place until yearsssss into the relationship. It should not be a crutch for your sexual relationship... only an enhancer. It definitely would NOT be a regular occurence. Eh, I just don't like the idea... maybe I'm too possessive for allat.

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