Exposing Children




When is it a good time to talk to your children about
your sexuality and lifestyle?


Val's POV: This topic has been on my mind for awhile since I am the proud mom of a seven year old son. I have kept him sheltered for most of his life not bringing him around those I’ve dated over the years... then came Tae….

Together we’re a family. The other day while walking with Jah’mir, Tae asked him “who he thought she was” and he responded “mommy’s friend” which triggered the emotion in me that maybe it’s time we sit him down and tell him together. Children are smarter then we give them credit for. Ignorance and judgment comes from lack of knowledge...if they understand what it is about then they would have a better understanding to make better judgments’ about the situations. Otherwise they will hear it from the outside world and create their views from there. I don’t want to keep who I am away from his so in no way will he think its wrong. Children are much more accepting and supportive. I want Tae and I to sit him down soon and tell him that he now has two people who love him. While our family isn’t the traditional family, it’s a loving and solid one nonetheless. He’s seven and the right age to know the truth. I believe education starts within the family...

Tae's POV: Hmm, if it were up to me, children would be introduced to sexual discussions the same time they're introduced to their body parts... in other words, as soon as they can speak. Just as a teacher would start math with 1+1=2 and progress to calculus.. sexual discussions should begin very basic until the child matures and is able to grasp complex ideas. Within this sexual education, they would be informed that their are different types of relationships, none being better than the other. But hey, that's just me dreaming. Sex talks should start at home, and in my household, they will.

As far as our personal situation goes, I think that Val should sit down with Jah'mir, as mother and son, and inform him of our different, yet loving family. After it is discussed, I would gladly partake in following discussions to reassure him that we are no different than any other family because WE ARE NOT.

Grr.
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